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A48 Arjava & Phyllis: Free to Let Go
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‚Who knows, probably I would just go and give her a hug and say: Okay, let’s leave all this behind and start new.‘
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We looked yesterday also at the constellation work you did in 1999, I believe, with Bert Hellinger,
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which I was very much impressed by. For one, it showed your dedication of searching,
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your dedication to also finding your role in the unfolding of Reiki as a whole.
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It was actually interesting when I noticed that your replacement sort of at one point just turned round 360 degrees.
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Sort of, ‚Where am I? What’s going on?‘
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And then he said afterwards, the representative of me, he said afterwards,
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‚I don’t know my place, I don’t know where I am, I was looking around.‘
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That’s exactly how I felt. I felt that I had …
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If I say I have a mission, it is easily misunderstood. Like I don’t mean it in a big …
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but I had a part to play in that … In this. And I didn’t know what it is.
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I was insecure, I wanted to know what is my part, what am I to do here.
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I don’t know if we said it on film or in our private conversations, that in the beginning with Usui sensei,
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I had a strong feeling that I … kind of like, I owe him to make it right,
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to bring him back and to bring him back in an appropriate manner to where he belongs in the Reiki scene and as he was
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– not as in a fairy tale.
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After seeing that constellation, I relaxed because for you guys that haven’t seen the constellation,
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in the beginning of that, Usui sensei just looks around and he’s very intrigued by the nature outside of the venue.
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Then very quickly he just leaves and he says, ‚I’m finished with all the stuff behind me.‘ And he goes out.
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So when I saw that, something really relaxed in me.
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And I realized that, ‚Okay, here I don’t have to do anything for him, he is complete in himself. He doesn’t need me to fix something.‘
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And then things … And that was in 1999.
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So after the third book, the ‚Usui Handbook‘ had come out, and then after that things changed.
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I was just thinking, how do you feel today when you reflect …
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you saw this relatively young man turning in a circle looking for his mission or for his calling, for his purpose.
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And the day before yesterday you told me you resigned from your position, so in a way there’s the reset thing.
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So, looking back, have you fulfilled your mission, do you think?
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You know, I don’t think you can ever … Double negation is difficult!
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I don’t think you can ever not fulfil your mission.
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And yet you never do?
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Perhaps. But it is what it is. You do what you can, you do your best.
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And sometimes that best is good, and sometimes it’s not good enough.
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But you cannot avoid your fate or your … your theme in life.
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So. That’s it. So, in that way, I think of course I did what I could. And I gave my best.
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This has been always one of my dreams … not my ‚dreams‘ … What to say?
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It’s been my wish, my deep wish that I don’t want to look back and regret.
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I don’t want to sit here, and I know I’m dying now, and I look back at my life, and I would think that,
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‚Oh man, I really messed this up, or I failed, or I didn’t do my best, I didn’t give what I could have given.‘
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I don’t want that. So my intention is always to give as much as I can.
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It doesn’t mean that I have to carry the world on my shoulders, that I have to be Superman or anything,
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but I give what I can. I’m not stingy with my energy. Let’s put it that way.
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So when I’m at home, my intention is to be as present as possible with my wife, with my kids, with the work at hand, with the olives.
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When I’m here, I give myself as fully as I can.
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I have no other agenda. I’m here for you and the project and the cameras.
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When I’m somewhere else, when I’m in the farm, I take care of the olives, of the vegetables …
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This is kind of my life philosophy, that I give what I can.
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And I know that sometimes it’s just not good enough. And I accept that.
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I don’t know … Thassos, who is here, he was present in Arizona with me … I don’t know whether he has the same feeling like I just had,
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because when I spoke to Phyllis, she almost used the same words as you just did.
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And she said …
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She was talking about doing the best, failing sometimes, making mistakes.
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And that was actually her prelude to the apology.
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And one of the questions which came to us, actually, when I spoke also to Thassos, was the question:
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What would you today say to Phyllis? If you had to meet her today, what would you tell her, if she had to walk through the door?
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I have no idea. I don’t know.
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I don’t know, it’s really hypothetical. So I have no idea what I would do.
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Something, I’m sure I would do something.
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Who knows, probably I would just go and give her a hug and say, ‚Okay, let’s leave all this behind and start new.‘
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But I really don’t know, because honestly I don’t know.
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And one of the things that I intend not to do is to create scenarios in my brain of what I would do at a certain event if that ever came.
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For example, in this project, before I came here, I didn’t think what I’m going to say.
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I didn’t think, ‚What he’s going to ask me, especially about maybe uncomfortable questions?‘
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When the thought comes, like, ‚What are we going to do?‘ I would say,
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‚No, no, not now. I’m sitting on the train. Let’s enjoy the train ride.‘
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So, I tend to keep the mind in the present, and not to create scenarios of what might be if …
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Because I’ve driven myself crazy with this for so many years, I don’t want it anymore.
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So I try to be as present as possible.
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I had a key experience in 1998.
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Must have been in 1998. I had a friend who was a very gifted psychic.
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But she was not the type of psychic who would tell you,
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‚Oh, you’re going to get very rich. And you’re going to marry and you’re going to meet …‘ Not this kind of psychic.
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But she really looked into your heart and mind and told you what is important for you now.
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And how you can deal with the challenges in your life in an appropriate way.
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This was just before I went on my first international teaching tour to Australia and New Zealand in ’98.
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I was a little bit nervous thinking, like, ‚Oh, you know, I’ve never done this before, and far away, and how am I going to do this?‘
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She looked at me and she said, ‚Never, ever prepare for a lecture! That’s not good for you.
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You’re the best when you can fish the answers and fish the teaching out of the present.‘
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When you tap into that, which we have spoken about earlier.
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I’ve been doing that ever since.
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But there is, of course, a little bit of tension sometimes before a lecture. Let’s say there are lots of people waiting there.
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And I’m thinking, ‚Phew, I don’t know what I’m going to say.‘ Then I have a trick. I say, ‚Okay, let’s do meditation.‘
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I always start with the meditation, and then I tell everybody, ‚Okay, close your eyes.‘
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Then I take a few minutes sitting and hope, pray that some inspiration will come. And it does.
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It does. This is one of the lessons I learned to ask, ‚Tell me!‘
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That also has the advantage that you’re not being bored by your own thoughts,
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which you’ve already had in the past. Something new happens that way.
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Oooh, horrible! And the best jokes come out of that kind of situation, obviously.
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The funniest situations when you yourself have to laugh because you didn’t expect it.
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I like that. I enjoy it.
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Translation: AI
Transcript: René Vögtli
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